Growing up, I didn’t see adults in passionate relationships. I saw people in tolerant partnerships, but I never saw excitement, or liveliness. I always felt that something was missing. Unfortunately, I didn’t discover what that something was before my first marriage, and the marriage ultimately failed.
Marriage was frustrating for me because I truly loved my wife, but I was unhappy, and I knew that she was as well. We didn’t know how to see eye-to-eye. I had a great career, and was regarded as successful and accomplished. But at home, behind closed doors, I was failing in love.
After my marriage ended, I spent years in personal reflection, learning and unlearning, questioning and challenging, and finding tools that I could use to improve my life. I explored yoga and meditation, tantra and sacred sexuality, religion and spirituality, BDSM and kink, shamanism and plant medicine, plus many other modalities, trying to find the keys that would unlock happiness for me.
Through my journeys, I discovered a few keys to happiness that I believe are universal. Among them are:
1. If you want someone else to participate in your happiness, then you should know what you want, and how to ask for it.
2. If you want to participate in the happiness of another, then you must be willing to hear them, to be giving, and to compromise.
3. For a relationship to be successful, you need to be able to see from your partner’s vantage
point.
4. Don’t do unto as you would want them to do unto you. Do unto others in a manner that they agree is acceptable for them. Learn their perspective and honor it.
Though the points above seem simple, it can be difficult to put them into practice, without having the proper tools. I’ve been honing those tools for years, and I want to share them with anyone who is willing to use them. I want to equip everyone with the tools they need to enjoy love, and find happiness in the relationships that they choose.
Seba Seker is a Master-Teacher-in-Training with the Ra Sekhi Arts Temple, keeper of the practice of Kemetic Reiki. Seba Seker is an Usui Reiki Master, certified tantra instructor, licensed martial arts instructor, sexual fitness coach, and meditation instructor. He has been a teacher and practitioner in the healing arts for over six years, and has hosted classes and retreats online, and in the Washington, DC region of the USA.
~ Seba Seker